Membership in The Recovering Human Community, a room for working women to name what's happening at work, support each other, and build the capacity to change the system.

Meetings are every other Wednesday at 9 p.m. ET on Zoom, starting Oct. 14.

Includes an optional parking lot after each meeting, an optional phone list for support between meetings, and a quarterly 90-minute workshop.

Women who work in corporate America. All women, including trans women, and nonbinary people who find a women's space right for them.

You do not have to currently have a job. If you are thinking about leaving, or you have been laid off and are job searching, this room is for you too. Those are some of the loneliest months there are, and they are exactly when the story about it being your fault gets loudest.

Everyone here also needs to be aligned with the values the room is built on. They are set out in the community membership terms and they are the shared ground rather than something we debate inside the room.

If you work in a service field, healthcare, education, or the trades, I would genuinely like to have you, but I am not the right person yet. My experience is corporate and so are the history and the tools I bring. I do not want to sell you a room built around someone else's version of the problem.

We open with the ground rules and the topic we’ll be discussing. Then members take turns sharing about what they're experiencing, up to three minutes each, with no advice or interruptions. You can share, or just listen. Afterward, anyone who wants to keep talking can stay for the optional parking lot.

What is happening to women at work: what we’re experiencing, the system's part in it, the history that got us here, and what can actually be done to change it.

Some of what will come up: Moral injury, which is the name for what happens when you are made to do things that go against what you believe. Workplace bullying. Layoffs, and waiting for them. Endless workplace transformations. AI being brought into your job. A manager who has made the work unlivable. Money. Whether to stay.

Current events come up when something has landed on us, because it usually has. And social and political topics are not walled off. Political decisions shape workers' rights, corporate interests shape political decisions, and what happens in the country arrives at your desk on Monday. Separating them out is what makes other rooms useless.

Each meeting will have no more than 100 participants.

Use the join button on the bottom of the homepage. There is no application and no call to book. You will get your group, the meeting link, and your billing portal link within two days. Then you show up. You do not have to prepare anything.

$20 a month, or $200 for the year. Cancel any time, no contract and no minimum.

There is a sliding scale. Money is one of the pressures people are here to talk about, and it would be strange to build a room about economic pressure that only people without it can afford. If the full price is not workable, email me and say what is. That is what you pay, you are not asked to prove anything, and nobody in your group knows what anyone else pays.

Most of what is offered on workplace challenges is built to optimize or increase what you can absorb. Resilience training, wellness benefits, another book about your morning routine. All of it puts the problem inside you.

This starts somewhere else. What is happening to you is largely being done to you, by systems built to produce this result. That is not an excuse and it does not make you passive. It is the only starting point from which anything actually changes.

It is also structurally different from anything your employer offers. No corporate partner shaping what gets said. And it comes with you from job to job. It is the one room about your working life that your employer does not own.

There is no end date. This is not a cohort or a course and there is nothing to graduate from. The room meets every other week and you stay as long as it is useful to you. Come for one month or four years.

Safety here comes from three things: who can get in, what can happen in the room, and the agreement every member makes.

Who gets in. Only paying members receive a meeting link.

What happens in the room. Meetings are never recorded, by me or anyone else. Recording, AI note-takers and screen sharing are turned off. You can use an alias and keep your camera off, always. There's no cross-talk during sharing, so no one will advise, correct, or try to fix you.

The agreement. Every member agrees to our terms before joining. What's said in the room stays in the room, and so does who was there. If you recognize someone, it stays with you. I will remove anyone who breaks confidentiality, immediately.

What I can't promise. Because the group is larger, I don't screen by employer, so someone from your company could be in the room. That's why you choose how much of yourself to bring: your name, your camera, and what you share are always your call. Only share what you'd be comfortable with this room hearing.

This is peer support, not therapy. If you're in crisis, please call or text 988.

One hour. Then an optional half hour afterward, for anyone who wants to stay and talk without the structure.

Worth noting what the half hour is for, because it's the one place where the rules relax. It’s called the “parking lot.” In the sharing meetings, nobody cross-talks (meaning no advice or response to what’s being shared). In the half hour after, people can actually respond to each other and ask for feedback. Or, just talk about fun topics, etc. It’s inspired by AA meetings and the fellowship that comes after.

No. Come with your camera off if that is what makes it possible to be honest.

Meetings are facilitated peer support. Members speak about their own experience. Nobody is called on, and no one has to speak in any given meeting, though sharing regularly is part of being a member.

Never. Not by me and not by members, including AI notetakers. If you use software that joins your meetings automatically, turn it off before you come.

Our first group will meet on Wednesdays at 8 p.m. EST. However, once it is full I will build other groups. Email me what time works for you.

Missing a meeting here and there has no consequence, and nothing is built to require consecutive attendance. The community, the knowledge and the capacity build over time, so regular attendance is what makes membership worth having.

No. Nobody in the room is a lead, a client, or a contact. No recruiting, no promoting, no pitching, in the meeting or the chat.

How anonymous is the community?

As anonymous as you want it to be, with a few limits I want you to know about up front.

What you control. You can use your real name or an alias, and keep your camera on or off. You never have to say where you work, and I will never ask. You don't have to share at all. Listening counts.

What other members see. Only the name you choose, and your face if your camera is on. Nothing about your email, your payment, or who you are outside the room is ever visible to other members.

What I see. Your email and the name on your payment card, because Stripe shows me that when you join. I keep that private and never share it.

What we all agree to. Every member agrees never to share who is part of this group or what anyone says in it. That agreement protects you even if someone recognizes you.

The limits. I don't screen by employer, so someone from your company could be in the room. Even with an alias and your camera off, someone who knows you well might recognize your voice or your story. If you join the optional phone list, the members on it will see your number. So share what you'd be comfortable with this room hearing, and bring as much of yourself as feels right.

No. This is peer support. I am a coach and a former corporate executive, not a licensed therapist, and nothing here is treatment or diagnosis. Many members will do both, and that is a good thing. If something comes up that calls for a therapist, I will say so. If you are in crisis, please contact a crisis line rather than waiting for a meeting. In the US you can call or text 988.

Any time, with no notice period and no conversation. Access runs through the end of the month you have paid for.

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I spent about two decades in corporate America, most of it leading work on culture, social impact, DEI, sustainability, and community engagement, including as an executive. That work put me in front of what people are actually dealing with at work and where the systems fail them, at a scale most people never get to see.

Part of that job was building community groups and hosting safe space conversations. I ran a lot of those rooms. They were often the most healing spaces people had, but they often stayed careful, because a colleague was present or somebody's budget was paying for it. This community is that room with those constraints taken out. I know exactly what to remove because I spent years working around it.

I am a also a coach, trained in person-centered theory, reflective inquiry, and positive psychology, and a Qualified Administrator of the Intercultural Development Inventory. I’ve worked in Talent Development and I also have a journalism background, which is most of the reason the learning weeks and tools exist and why I care about getting the history right rather than gesturing at it.

And I lived this. I built it because it is what I needed.

What I am not is a therapist, and I am not neutral. I have a position about what these systems are doing to people, and it is written plainly all over this page. You should know that going in rather than discovering it in week three.

Email rebeccagrey@therecoveringhuman.com. I answer everything myself.

Yes. I do one-to-one coaching for people who want to go deeper than a group allows. I also speak and host workshops for teams, organizations, and communities. And the newsletter on Substack is free, if you want to read before you decide anything.

Just email me if you would like to learn more. rebeccagrey@therecoveringhuman.com